Are You Teaching Your Child Self-Denial?

Recently, the girls and I went shopping for our Operation Christmas Child shoe boxes. Several days prior, I shared with them a new rule. "Nothing new from now until Christmas." From the middle of November until December 25th, we spend money only on essentials. No new toys, clothes, books, or music. Of course there can be exceptions, but the point of the rule is (1) to learn self-denial and (2) to thank God for providing all we need.However, no matter how many times we discuss this rule, children … [Read more...]

A Heart at Peace: An Equation for True Contentment

Envy. Discontent. Jealousy. "Is God really enough?""Is He truly giving me all I need?""Why are so many other people better off than me?""Does He love them more?""Don't I deserve ________, too?" As humans it's not uncommon to doubt the goodness and justice of a God we cannot see, especially when we witness people who aren't following Him prospering.     Satan makes us question if God is really enough, if He is truly giving us all we need. And when he fills our minds with these doubts, … [Read more...]

Raising Children to be Last in a "Me First" World (or some lessons I’m learning as a mom)

Entitlement has been the topic of the summer for me as I deal with my own issues as well as those of my young children. We live in an entitled society where "have it your way" has become a personal motto for most people and where "me first" isn't just something your two-year-old demands. But as I have mentioned before, we don't deserve anything, and if we want to teach our children how to follow Christ, then that means lessons in self-denial, contentment, and living a life of humility--something … [Read more...]

for when you want to escape

 Yesterday, I read this quote with a smile. "Amen, sister!" I thought. But when I re-read it today, I got angry. No one would take a nap. The baby had been screaming all morning. The preschooler's antics were simply enervating. I'm tired. My husband had been working all weekend, and I felt like I hadn't had a moment to exhale. Every ounce of my being was screaming, "But I need a break! I deserve some peace and quiet! My family is driving me crazy! When do I get some me time?!" And I'm throwing a … [Read more...]

What to Do When You Feel Entitled : 5 Tips to Tackle Discontent

For the past two weeks I have been sharing my thoughts on entitlement, specifically addressing how we need to battle entitlement in our homes and change our attitudes about what "I deserve."Today I want to share a few ways I'm trying to move away from this "entitled" attitude I've adopted because, as I mentioned last week, if I expect my children to have a realistic view of life and not expect everything to be handed to them or that they should always go first, then I have to begin with me. I … [Read more...]

When I Feel Like I Deserve ___________

Last week I stood on my soapbox, preaching on the war we must wage in our homes against entitlement. It's a battle that requires continual attention and constant work. If we hope to raise humble, grateful, count-your-many-blessings children, then we have to be proactive; we must have a plan; and we need direction. Why? Because this world we live in does not extol self-denial. Yet, as Christians, we are called by Christ to do that very thing if we intend to follow Him.This week I want to share … [Read more...]

Battling Entitlement in Our Homes

"Mom, give me some gum." "Gimme a piece of candy." "I need a cracker." "Can I have something to drink?" Every.single.time we get in the car those are the very first words out of my children's mouths. We haven't pulled out of the driveway even, and they're asking for something. Sure, I'm at least partly to blame. I have acquiesced so many times that they've become conditioned to expect those things, so when I say "no," they don't understand.And when they hear no from me, they cry and whine and … [Read more...]