For When You Question God’s Plan for Your Life

Lately, I’ve been down on myself for not getting everything on my To-Do List checked off. (Am I the only one like this?) I’ve felt like I should be doing more with my life and have overcommitted (yet again) at a season when I shouldn’t have.


To feel personal significance

(Tell me I’m not the only one.)

And the vision I once had of my life seems seriously warped. My plans have been turned upside down, my expectations thwarted.

Growing in His Glory: For When You Start to Question God's Plan for YOUR Life

And when your day consists of endless chaos that never leads to resolution, you start to question God’s plan for yourself.

Then when the world around you speaks of “following your dream” and “living for your own personal happiness,” the discontent begins to set in.

That’s when the grumbling and complaining starts — like those Israelites wandering in the desert. And that’s when you start to doubt God’s goodness.

Because when I say, “God, I want something different with my life,” in effect, I’m saying, “God, what you want is not good enough. Your ways are not perfect. You aren’t enough for me.”

Satan is the author of lies. He steals our joy; he fills us with doubts that subvert our faith in God and erode our own self-esteem. Our thoughts become harmful, prompting us to wield words like deadly weapons to those we love most. And all we want is to feel some significance, to see some tangible evidence of accomplishment.

We need to step away from the To-Do Lists that warp our vision of what’s good and bad and assess the day’s events in totality. To see, from sun-up to sunset, all the  good we’ve done and all the beauty God has achieved through us: all the meals prepared, all the bottoms wiped, all the clothes put away, all the chores done, all the activities participated in, all the books read, all the prayers prayed, all the kind words spoken–and to dwell on those things that are true, excellent, and praiseworthy.


God has laid on my heart this need to alter my perspective. To stop dwelling on the negative and instead take account of all the good. Because all of it is part of God’s plan for our lives; we just need to see the bigger picture.

So, instead of feeling guilt and anger at yourself for all the things you don’t get done today, start to look for the good you did do. Because there’s something beautiful there, even if it’s a minor thing like: “First day in two weeks of no wet beds. YEA!!”

Then, you’ll begin to see your life as a part of something bigger–as part of God’s perfect plan–that needs no improvement.

Growing in His Glory: For When You Start to Question God's Plan for Your LIfe

How To See “The Good” Each Day

During my quiet time in the mornings, I’m reflecting on the previous day and prayerfully searching for “the lovely” in it. And in my Prayer Journal, I’m keeping record of “The Good ” that happens on each and every day.

It’s a way to feel better about myself and how I’m doing.

It’s a way to account for the gifts God has blessed me with instead of focusing solely on the challenges.

It’s a way to thank God for His goodness instead of grumbling about what I think He should be doing in my life.

It’s a way to remember — years down the road — what joy being a mother was. Even when the To-Do List has no check marks on it.


Looking for the positive, seeing the good, and determining not to dwell on the negative — It’s helping me maintain my sanity right now and reminding me of my real personal significance. It’s in Christ. Not in the number of checks on our To-Do Lists.

What about you? Could a change in perspective help you too?


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  1. I really enjoyed reading this post, Kerri. I think I make a to do list for most days of my life and RARELY have I ever crossed all the items off in one day. In fact, the list usually gets thrown away and those items that weren’t accomplished roll over to a new list. The cycle continues of course, because by the time I make a new list I have thought of 3 other things to add. Frustration abounds along with thoughts of “I’m not going to take myself seriously while I’m making this list, because I’m probably not going to make much of a dent in this one either.”
    We have such a good Father in God. So many times when that perfectionist mentality creeps up on me, I come before Him expecting condemnation or disappointment. Instead, He gives me grace, love, mercy, and acceptance through Jesus. All of life is a growing process in Him. God teaches us through experiences, and failures or those “coming up short moments” are just part of that package. Intimacy with Him comes through that process. “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness… (2 Cor 12:9).” Otherwise it’s just self-generated “achievements” that don’t give life but drain it. I have to remember in those moments of frustration and agony over what didn’t happen or what wasn’t accomplished to recognize the voice I’m hearing: does it sound like the accuser or the good Shepherd?
    I heard Tony Kemp say recently, “learn to love the learning.” That’s a perspective change I am working on. Praise God for the freedom He brings from old man mentalities 🙂
    Thanks for your post! It’s a great reminder to recognize where our thoughts are and to abide in thankfulness.
    Your blog always encourages me.

    • Karen, thank you for your insightful comment. You’re right: We do have a good Father who loves us and extends His mercy, grace, and love even when we don’t deserve it. I’m ashamed to admit that I forget this truth sometimes. Probably because I’m too focused on my earthly shortcomings. Throughout our lives as we strive to be more like Christ we go through the painful process of refining, where the ugly is scraped away and burned off until we slowly begin to resemble the Father who created us in His image. To “love the learning” as you mention is a great perspective but a tough one because refining is so hard to go through, and yet I see in my own life the beauty that comes out of such mess. I have a long ways to go in that process but it’s encouraging to be reminded that the trials we face in this life are bringing us closer to Him. I love what James says: “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” (James 1:2-4).

      You are wise beyond your years, Karen. Praying God will continue to bless you as you strive to walk in His will.

  2. Sorry I got overzealous with the r’s in Keri… 🙂

  3. What a needed reminder this was for today! I tend to focus so easily on the things I didn’t do, which then weighs me down. Instead focusing on the things I did do and on the things God taught me, gives a lot better perspective into life. Thank you for sharing!
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  4. Oh, Keri, we have all been there! Just remember every time you love your husband, children and are keeping your home, you are significant because you are fulfilling your Titus 2 calling… to minister to those souls in your reach 🙂 That is your to-do list… Sounds like you are on the right path to count your blessings! That is a healer too…
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