Lately, I’ve been down on myself for not getting everything on my To-Do List checked off. (Am I the only one like this?) I’ve felt like I should be doing more with my life and have overcommitted (yet again) at a season when I shouldn’t have.
To feel personal significance
(Tell me I’m not the only one.)
And the vision I once had of my life seems seriously warped. My plans have been turned upside down, my expectations thwarted.
And when your day consists of endless chaos that never leads to resolution, you start to question God’s plan for yourself.
Then when the world around you speaks of “following your dream” and “living for your own personal happiness,” the discontent begins to set in.
That’s when the grumbling and complaining starts — like those Israelites wandering in the desert. And that’s when you start to doubt God’s goodness.
Because when I say, “God, I want something different with my life,” in effect, I’m saying, “God, what you want is not good enough. Your ways are not perfect. You aren’t enough for me.”
Satan is the author of lies. He steals our joy; he fills us with doubts that subvert our faith in God and erode our own self-esteem. Our thoughts become harmful, prompting us to wield words like deadly weapons to those we love most. And all we want is to feel some significance, to see some tangible evidence of accomplishment.
We need to step away from the To-Do Lists that warp our vision of what’s good and bad and assess the day’s events in totality. To see, from sun-up to sunset, all the good we’ve done and all the beauty God has achieved through us: all the meals prepared, all the bottoms wiped, all the clothes put away, all the chores done, all the activities participated in, all the books read, all the prayers prayed, all the kind words spoken–and to dwell on those things that are true, excellent, and praiseworthy.
God has laid on my heart this need to alter my perspective. To stop dwelling on the negative and instead take account of all the good. Because all of it is part of God’s plan for our lives; we just need to see the bigger picture.
So, instead of feeling guilt and anger at yourself for all the things you don’t get done today, start to look for the good you did do. Because there’s something beautiful there, even if it’s a minor thing like: “First day in two weeks of no wet beds. YEA!!”
Then, you’ll begin to see your life as a part of something bigger–as part of God’s perfect plan–that needs no improvement.
How To See “The Good” Each Day
During my quiet time in the mornings, I’m reflecting on the previous day and prayerfully searching for “the lovely” in it. And in my Prayer Journal, I’m keeping record of “The Good ” that happens on each and every day.
It’s a way to feel better about myself and how I’m doing.
It’s a way to account for the gifts God has blessed me with instead of focusing solely on the challenges.
It’s a way to thank God for His goodness instead of grumbling about what I think He should be doing in my life.
It’s a way to remember — years down the road — what joy being a mother was. Even when the To-Do List has no check marks on it.
Looking for the positive, seeing the good, and determining not to dwell on the negative — It’s helping me maintain my sanity right now and reminding me of my real personal significance. It’s in Christ. Not in the number of checks on our To-Do Lists.
What about you? Could a change in perspective help you too?